Signs He’s Into You (Book Boyfriend Edition): Listen, there is a point to be made that all of us romantasy lovers are getting somewhat unrealistic expectations when it comes to our boyfriends, and the full picture of the damage Sarah J. Maas single-handedly unleashed on an entire generation is yet to be determined.
But, fear not, I am here to tell you that real life men are still much more exciting than any woman-created equivalent (sorry, Rhysand, dear).
Your man may be simply not as good at showing his affection, and often gets misunderstood.
So, let’s get into it. Want to know the signs that your man is into you if he failed to communicate it just the way Ali Hazelwood taught us he should?
He remembers things. Like, really remembers.
He remembers what you said days, months, years ago. He will come up with some detail that even you no longer remember. Something that you didn’t consider important, he will store in his memory with the precision of a scientist (just like Dr. Carlson from The Love Hypothesis).
And when you naturally repeat some trifle of information about you, he will remind you when you told him that and what you wore on that day. Because he remembers. Because you are actually important.
His eyes don’t wander.
One of the best signs that he’s into you is, despite you having many gorgeous friends, he never once looks at any of them the same way he looks at you. You may mention one of them, he doesn’t remember their names, because he only has eyes for you. Even if you are objectively not looking your best. Even if you are pale and sickly, drunk, or have fallen into the lake in your ball gown (think Cian from Starbond).
He’s seen your worst, and still thinks you’re the best.
He witnessed your dark side on many occasions and still thinks you are amazing. What better sign would you need to know that he’s into you? You may be out of spirits, angry, annoyed, or hungry, but he is still sticking around, sharing in every concern, not trying to stop you from expressing your raw emotions. Because deep down, he loves who you are as a person and respects you (think Hadeon in Witchbond).
He calls you out . . .with love.
He is not afraid to tell you that you are wrong. And even if you are unhappy at the moment, later you realize that he came from deep concern and care for you, and nothing else. Because he wants what is best for you. But if later it turns out that he was right all along, he never brings it up, sparing your feelings (Victor in Stormbond).
He makes time, no excuses.
He always finds time for you. Even if he has a busy lifestyle. You never have to beg him to talk to you on the phone, or wait for days for him to respond to your text (think Alex Volkov from Twisted Love). Because you are his priority and he doesn’t listen to stupid, manipulative advice from pseudo alphamale bros.
Conclusion – Signs He’s Into You:
He is into you, smitten, obsessed with you in a healthy, non-creepy way (sorry Haunting Adeline fans).
There are so many more points that I am not going to mention: he holds your hand in public, respects your family, listens to your super girly music, lets you pick a movie, gets you flowers for no reason, and is not against your collection of spicy books.
Ladies, don’t you dare settle for less.
With love,